19 December 2022
Oh no! Christmas is nearly here!
HA! Not the reaction we are conditioned to expect about Christmas is it, but none the less a valid one for many people. When you’re an empath, you suffer low self worth and your coping mechanism is people pleasing, Christmas with its endless activities and difficult gatherings can actually be quite traumatic!
The good news is it doesn’t need to be this way. With a healthy dose of introspection and self love, traumas when unwrapped actually contain many beautiful gifts for you this Christmas!
8 Empath Traumas, which actually contain beautiful gifts:
1. Uwrap Perfectionism to receive a happy relaxed home:
Magazines sell the idea of a picture perfect Christmas. Everything is exquisitely styled, the food is a work of art and a gracious hostess effortlessly presides over a sprawling immaculate home drinking a rare hand crafted cocktail while 30 cherubic guests sing carols and unwrap perfect thoughtful gifts together.
I don’t know how the host manages to look like a supermodel after being up all night wrapping horsdouvres in pastry and creating place settings from local flora while baking a croquebure tower of cream puffs but it’s not happening my house without her team of editors, designers, photographers and stylists I can tell you!
Stop setting yourself impossible standards to attain! When you fail, because you are human, you feel even more worthless!
Let Christmas be whatever it naturally turns out to be! Yes, put your heart into what you are creating, let your love spill into it, but don’t completely drain yourself.
That’s not a path to a happy Christmas but rather a shortcut to feeling resentful and bitter.
2. Unwrap Empath Overwhelm to receive compassion:
Social gatherings can cause a lot of pain for empaths who feel obligated to help everyone they meet. Strangers sense your open heart and make a beeline for you at parties to dump their problems on you.
It doesn’t have to be this way. Try telling yourself the mantra ‘That’s your stuff, not mine’. It is possible to feel compassion for another without shouldering their burdens.
Everyone is responsible for themselves and descending to the depths of another’s despair is not the way to help them. It merely creates two vessels of pain where before their was just one. Be loving but don’t embody their pain, it benefits nobody.
3. Unwrap putting others needs first to receive a stronger happier you:
Is your To Do List 10 pages long? Stop and take a breather.
It may seem death defying important to send 40 Christmas cards to far flung relatives you never hear from the other 364 days of the year, while also wrapping gifts, whipping up a ten course gastronomic delight and turning up at every social event, but is it even possible?
Is this season really called the holidays? When this gets too much unwrap this trauma and find that when you lose the layers of pain and fear telling you that you need to place everyone else’s needs above your own, you will find yourself again.
Prioritise! Stop endless box ticking. Choose one or two things you can easily with an open heart do for others.
4. Unwrap Self neglect to receive balance:
Energy should be maintained in an endless flow of giving and receiving but when you have low self worth you are stuck in a cycle of over giving.
This Christmas begin to honour your energy. Avoid the relative who talks endlessly about their health problems without asking how you are.
When you begin to notice that you are feeling frazzled say no to some invites. Instead rest. Spend some time in nature, read a good book on the couch and replenish your energy.
5. Unwrap unhealthy eating to receive a vibrant healthy you:
Ah Christmas feasts! Everything seem enticing, but ask how you will feel after that third slice of cheesecake Aunty is pressing on you?
Is it really a ‘treat’ to feel overweight, uncomfortable and nauseous?
Stick to your principles. Make choices from empowerment, instead of obligation or not wanting to hurt feelings.
Those that care about you want what’s good for you. If this isn’t the case then there is no pressure to try to please them.
6. Unwrap PTSD to receive stablity and grounding:
When you go through trauma we can’t process we bury it. The trauma stored in our bodies creates energy blockages, which poison your life.
Actively engage in doing the inner work of processing your painful emotions to release them.
Energy healing and spiritual coaching can help. To unwrap trauma to reveal the gift of a stronger more powerful you, please CONTACT ME for help.
7. Unwrap Toxic family dynamics to receive strong boundaries and inner growth:
If you feel like the black sheep in your family it’s because you are. Trauma travels through ancestral lines unchecked until someone brave enough to break the cycle is born, YOU!
To those who have never questioned the toxicity of status quo, questioning is deeply unsettling and they will attempt to discredit you, because of cognitive dissonance.
It’s not your responsibility to challenge their views or to wake them up and your growth is not hindered by their refusal to take any responsibility for their part in causing suffering. Your only responsibility is to heal yourself and take ownership for how your reactions may have hurt others.
Set strong boundaries that teach others what you will and will not accept and focus on your own growth.
8. Unwrap loneliness to receive connection:
Empaths often feel lonely in social gatherings. If you have low self worth, you feel the real you isn’t good enough, and you need be someone else to fit in.
When you mask and pretend to be someone else you lose yourself even more. If you choose to show others who you really are, real connections can be made. Genuine connection begins with you connecting and accepting yourself first.
Give yourself the gift of self love by unwrapping some of these traumas this Christmas, so you can receive the amazing gifts
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Merry Christmas!
xxx Nicoleen
Nicoleen Agnello is the Flamekeeper, Guardian of love and light of the Universal Spirit. She is a divinely gifted spiritual coach whose purpose is to guide and support you in rising from the ashes of trauma and low self worth to be reborn. Nicoleen offers personal one on one coaching through her transformative Phoenix Program. She is an energy healer who practices medical astronomy (also known as the reconnection) for healing and offers health consultations through the medical medium protocol. She is a professional artist who uses her clairvoyance to create highly spiritual art for sale. Nicoleen offers private healings, personal coaching and consultations by appointment through www.theflamekeeper.com.au
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