27 October 2022
Your beliefs are an agreement you have made with the universe about how reality works
When you go through trauma and abuse your ego tries to make sense of it and creates a set of rules, which govern how you respond to the world in order to keep you safe. These rules are your subconscious beliefs.
Limiting beliefs running on autopilot create chaos
The problem is, if you don’t revisit these beliefs they are left to run on autopilot throughout your live, causing chaos and destruction. It’s wise to periodically examine your beliefs and ask ‘does this belief still serve me?’
A belief of low self worth or feeling unworthy to receive love is a belief that was created by the ego as a trauma response. When you experienced abuse, the ego gave the event the meaning that you are not worthy to receive love and in order to survive you need to earn love and validation from others. This belief may have served to help you get your needs met as a young child, but it may hinder you as an adult.
Old Beliefs that you created in order to survive in the past may be harming you now
For example, I used to work in advertising as a creative. It was a challenging role where I would consistently over give and then wonder why I wasn’t appreciated. One particular job I remember working 70 hours every single week and only getting paid for 40. The account I was brought in on was a shambles. It was a fast paced retail account and we had a gruelling TV commercial schedule to maintain. Although it was a lucrative account that warranted an office and proper facilities the ad agency didn’t have a spare room for us so they stuck some desks in a walkway and put my partner and I there. It was an impossible way to work! We would literally be knee deep in concepts with all our work spread out on the floor and a TV commercial deadline that day and we had people stepping over our layouts to get past us!
I held a limiting belief that was ruining my life
You see I held the belief that I didn’t deserve respect, that irrespective of how I was treated I was just lucky to be there because it was some sort of miracle that I was even able to earn money for my creativity, and if I complained or rocked the boat I would be out on the street where I deserved to be. And guess what, after a particularly gruelling and humiliating day of cat and mouse with the client service team I did get spat out, but only after I had pulled a month of 70 hr weeks in a row for no extra pay. You see, MY belief that I was ‘less than’ actually attracted circumstances and people that would reinforce that belief in me.
Reality is a MIRROR
The reason for this is because reality is a MIRROR! The energy INSIDE you is reflected back to you! My energy was literally telling people ‘this is how you must treat me’, so you see the person to blame was ME! I let them know it was ok to overlook me and to LITERALLY overstep my boundaries because I wasn’t enforcing them due to my low self-esteem.
Needless to say that job wasn’t healthy for me. I felt abused, exhausted, taken for granted and dried up. You see, the belief that I was ‘less than’ and that I needed to earn respect and validation from others was running on autopilot and destroying my life.
Ask yourself, ‘is this belief still serving me?’
As an adult you have the opportunity to revisit your beliefs and see if they are still valid and useful to you. Most often when we revisit the belief and the circumstance that caused it, you can see that it isn’t valid, and that the meaning you assigned to the cause for your belief is actually flawed.
When I look back at my childhood where I was neglected and made to feel like I didn’t matter I can see that is where my belief of low self worth came from. I can also see that when my parents neglected me or I wasn’t given love it wasn’t because there was something fundamentally wrong with me, which is the conclusion my inner child came to, but that in actual fact my parents were struggling with their own unresolved trauma and weren’t capable of giving me love as they had never received any themselves.
You don’t need to live with the burden of your beliefs
You don’t have to live with the burden of your beliefs any longer. If like me, you have identified an
out-dated belief that no longer serves you, I’d like to offer you a simple ritual to help you heal.
Do this to let go of the weight of limiting beliefs
• Choose a pebble for each out-dated belief and with a water-soluble marker write down each belief you want to get rid of.
• Call upon angelic assistance to set you free from the burden of your limiting beliefs, and throw them in the sea.
• Take a moment to be grateful as the sea transmutes the negative energy, washing away your limiting beliefs, and notice how much lighter you feel.
• Return to this practice whenever you feel you have begun running on autopilot again.
'Thousand Suns' by Nicoleen Agnello, the Flamekeeper
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